Why Men Leak After Prostate Surgery—and How You Fix It
After prostate surgery, it’s common for men to notice leaking with standing, walking, coughing, or any sudden movement. That loss of control is not a character flaw; it’s a mechanical issue:
- The prostate and surrounding tissues help support the urethra. Surgery changes that support.
- The pelvic floor—the sling of muscles between the pubic bone and tailbone—must now do more of the continence work.
- In the early weeks, those muscles are weak, tired, and poorly timed, so pressure from everyday movement can overwhelm them.
The way back to control is not endless, hard squeezing. What works is precision: finding the right muscles, syncing them with your breath, and progressing volume in a smart sequence as healing allows.
Men’s continence formula: Right muscles × timed to an exhale × gradual progression = control that sticks.
Find the Right Muscles (Zero Guesswork)
Sit tall on a firm chair. Relax belly, glutes, and thighs.
- Think “close, then lift.” Imagine stopping urine and holding back gas at once.
- You should feel a subtle closing around the urethra (behind the scrotum), followed by a gentle lift inside the pelvis.
- No extras: Your abdomen should stay soft; your butt and thighs stay quiet. Place fingers on your belly and under your sit bones—no big movement there.
If you feel downward pressure, face strain, or your thighs clench, reset. Smaller is better than wrong.
Breathe to Win (Stop the Downward Pressure)
Breath is the pressure valve for your core.
- Inhale (through the nose): Diaphragm drops; pelvic floor should relax and lengthen.
- Exhale (through the mouth): Diaphragm rises; pelvic floor should recoil and lift.
Time every contraction to an exhale. Think: “Exhale—close—lift.”
This vents pressure upward so it doesn’t slam down on a tired pelvic floor.
Practice (60 seconds):
- 4–5 slow breaths. On each exhale, gently lift (20–30% effort) for 3–5 seconds; fully let go on the inhale.
The Two Moves That Rebuild Control
You’ll train both slow-twitch (all-day support) and fast-twitch (quick reflex) fibers.
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Slow Holds (Endurance):
- On an exhale, close-and-lift to a gentle 30–50% effort.
- Hold 5–10 seconds, then fully release for 10–20 seconds.
- Feels like: steady, subtle support—not shaking.
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Quick Pulses (Timing):
- On a short exhale, quickly lift and release (1 second up, 1 second off).
- Stay crisp; don’t blur into a long hold.
- Feels like: a blink—no abdominal brace.
Rule: Every rep has a beginning and an end. Full releases prevent tension build-up.
Your 6-Week Men’s Progression (Post-Clearance)
Start only after your surgeon or nurse gives the green light (often after catheter removal). The schedule is a template—listen to your body and symptoms.
Use the Green/Yellow/Red Guide at every step:
- Green: No leaks during/after, no heaviness/bulging, no pain → progress as planned.
- Yellow: Mild fatigue or small drips → reduce effort to 30%, add rest, or repeat the week.
- Red: Leaks increase, heaviness/bulging, pain → stop for the day and regress.
Week 1 — Gentle Activation & Awareness
- Daily (2–3×/day):
- Slow Holds: 8–10 reps, 5–7s each, full 10–20s rest.
- Quick Pulses: 8–10 crisp reps, 1s up/1s off.
- Breath drill: 1–2 minutes of inhale-relax / exhale-lift, no squeezing on inhale.
- Walks: 5–15 minutes, exhale on effort (stairs, sit-to-stand).
- Goal: Find muscles reliably, no glute/ab substitution.
Week 2 — Build Endurance, Protect Release
- Daily (2–3×/day):
- Slow Holds: 10–12 reps, 8–10s each, 15–20s rest.
- Quick Pulses: 10–12 reps, stay crisp.
- Function layer: Before cough, stand, or lift, exhale + gentle pre-lift (the men’s version of The Knack).
- Goal: End of day feels as dry as start, or trending better.
Week 3 — Strengthen the Reflex
- Daily (2×/day):
- Slow Holds: 10 reps, 10s each, 20s rest.
- Quick Pulses: 2 sets of 10.
- Mini-challenges:
- Sit-to-Stand (2×10): Exhale + pre-lift as you stand, fully release at the top.
- Stair Test: Exhale on the first two steps; pre-lift if you feel a cough/sneeze coming.
- Goal: Fewer “surprise” leaks, faster recovery after activity.
Week 4 — Functional Control
- Daily (2×/day):
- Slow Holds: 10 reps, 10–12s each, 20–30s rest.
- Quick Pulses: 3×10 (break between sets).
- Add light strength:
- Hip Hinge with Exhale (2×10): Small bow with neutral spine; exhale as you hinge, no breath-hold.
- Carry (2×30–60s): Light grocery bag at your side; steady exhale on steps/turns.
- Goal: Continence during simple chores; pads/guards feel “overkill” at times.
Week 5 — Capacity Meets Consistency
- Daily (1–2×/day):
- Slow Holds: 8–10 reps, 12–15s each, 30s rest.
- Quick Pulses: 3×12.
- Function:
- Cough/Sneeze Drill (5 reps): Inhale (relax) → feel the urge → sharp pre-lift + exhale as it happens → fully release.
- Walk 20–30 minutes with nasal inhale / pursed-lip exhale.
- Goal: Dry on normal days; slip-ups are rare and explainable (e.g., forgot the exhale).
Week 6 — Return to You
- Daily (1×/day + “micro-reps”):
- Slow Holds: 6–8 reps, 15s each, 30–45s rest.
- Quick Pulses: 2×15.
- Micro-habit layer: 2–3 times day, practice 3 perfect reps (exhale + close + lift; full release).
- Optional light cardio or gym:
- Bike/Elliptical or machine rows/press with exhale on effort; avoid heavy valsalva breath holds.
- Goal: Confident control with daily life and light workouts.
Graduation rule: When you’re consistently Green for 2–3 weeks, you can taper to maintenance—e.g., 3–4 days/week brief sets, plus the pre-lift on cough/lift moments.
Technique Cues Men Should Bookmark
- Effort is modest (30–50%). Continence is about timing and endurance, not max power.
- Release is half the rep. If you can’t feel the drop, your next lift will be weaker.
- Jaw, ribs, and belly stay soft. Tension in face/abs means you’re over-bracing.
- Breath sets the rhythm. Every rep rides an exhale; every release rides an inhale.
- Quiet posture: Ears over shoulders over hips; no tailbone tuck, no rib flare.
Troubleshooting (Fast Fixes)
Still leaking when standing up
→ Slow down the first rep of sit-to-stand. Inhale to relax while seated, then exhale + pre-lift as you initiate the stand. Practice 2×10 daily.
Leaks worse by evening
→ You’re fatiguing. Cut total reps by 20–30% for 48 hours, extend rests, and add a 60-second relaxation breath session mid-day.
Feeling pressure or bulging
→ You’re likely bearing down. Shrink effort to 20–30%, lead with a longer exhale, and practice 5 “let-go” inhales before resuming.
Ab or glute gripping
→ Put a hand on your belly and under one butt cheek. They should stay soft. If not, reset and cue “close at the urethra, lift inside.”
Everyday Playbook (Real-World Wins)
- Cough/Sneeze: Feel it coming → pre-lift + exhale (like blowing out candles) → release after.
- Lifting a bag: Exhale before and as you lift; no breath holds.
- Getting out of the car: One foot out, exhale + pre-lift as you stand.
- Long walks: Use a talk-test pace—if you’re breath-holding, slow down.
These are small, repeatable victories that re-train your reflexes all day long.
When Men Should Call Their Team
- Persistent Red symptoms despite 2–3 weeks of scaling.
- New/worsening pain, fever, or visible blood (follow surgeon instructions).
- Heavy heaviness/bulging or zero progress after 6–8 weeks of consistent practice.
A pelvic health physical therapist can fine-tune activation and timing in a session or two and personalize your progression.
Bottom Line for Men
Leaking after prostate surgery is common—and fixable. Don’t chase max squeezes; master small, precise contractions timed to an exhale, then layer those skills into real life with a steady, 6-week progression. Keep reps modest, protect your full release, and let symptoms guide your pace. Do that, and you’ll trade pads for confidence—on your schedule, with control that lasts.